Time is not my friend. With tomorrow being the filing date for 4th quarter payroll returns and some folks believing they can walk their documentation in at the last hour - I'm swamped. Although, I am happy to have work. Or should I say- work that pays?
I just want to send out good thoughts and prayers to my friend Cheryl, who's mom is not doing well and treatments are not available. If you pray - could you for Cheryl and her family? They have had a rough go and I do believe in the power of prayer.
Yesterday, I learned a friend is going into a short sale with their newer home. I believed that they were over their heads when they bought it. But recently, with a huge increase in income - well over DH and I combined, that they would be fine. Of course, all their vacations and shopping won and now the house is lost.
I'd love to feel sorry for these folks. But I don't. They made their bed and now should lie in it or get up and make it. I've been there when expenses were above income - but I didn't just say "oh, well". I got up, went to work, found more work, and whittled the issues away. I was elated to find my DH who would also jump in and do what it takes to make it. We have come along way.
AND I BELIEVE ANYONE CAN IN OUR COUNTRY - WITH HARD WORK AND DETERMINATION.
You may not like the work. I didn't particularly like being gone 14 hours a day, when my kids were small. Nor did I like asking for work from everyone I met. Sometimes felt I was begging. Thankfully, I fell into some really great places that let me work hard and they paid. MINIMUM WAGE, but it got the job done.
One last thing that happened yesterday. I generally prepare a long time friends tax return. I have received a couple calls already this year, with info questions - no big deal. Then yesterday, they call and tell me they are trying to prepare their own taxes online. They wanted me to help them over the phone - apparently for free. To show how unprepared they were for the task - the question they asked was
"It wants to know if we had itemized expenses last year. What are those?"
Yes, I was .......bothered by this call. I found it in poor taste. I gave a couple clues and then politely told them I was working and needed to go. They asked me to call back - later. NO, I didn't and I wouldn't.
I would NEVER ask anyone to do their job for me, for free. As I felt this call was. In fact, when I ask a friend, say my electrician friend, to help with an issue - I expect a bill - period. I also request a bill, if one is not readily provided. Then in the worse case -if you want to call it that - that they don't give a bill, I then either send a gift card with cash or schedule for a "friend out" time - our treat.
Is this something, an etiquette only known by the self-employed?
With friends like this.......... By the way, these long time "friends" are only on the phone to me during tax season or major problem time. Which I'm okay with, our husbands wouldn't mix well and we are in different circles.